So not really sure how to start this. This is one of those situations where you kind of have to experience it to get the full effect, but I will try to stretch my writing skills and my use of adjectives to paint this picture for you! Anyway, over the last couple of weeks I have been out on a few dates with a person, while a good time was had by all, there were just a few things that bothered me. But let me backup a little and explain a few basic beliefs that I have:
1) I believe in the concept of reciprocating. For example if you ask someone a question you are prepared to answer the same question if posed back to you. This is a way to create balance in conversation and in a relationship.
2) I believe that it is important to direct your focus while speaking with someone and let them know that you are engaged in the conversation.
With that said let me continue. So I've been out with this guy a couple of times and he is really nice and we have a good time. But two of my basic beliefs have been violated. One instance is we are sitting eating ice cream (I know everyone that knows me is like, why are you eating ice cream you hate ice cream?) and he is just sitting there asking me questions. Like one right after another. Which is a great dating technique to have some questions to ask and be interested in the the other person. However, when I go to ask the questions back, they are deflected by him asking me another question. Finally, I got so frustrated that I said it straight up "You've been asking me a lot of questions how about you answer some." That got that ball rolling for about two seconds. And then the questions turned back to me.
Second scenario, to make things even worse the whole time while these questions are being asked my name is being repeated like 100 times! It seems that the question needed to start and end with my name! I get that you are talking to me, especially when we are the only two people in the room! And while it is nice to hear the sound of your name, it like many other words when said to much starts to sound weird. Anyway, that is my rant! Where is that black dress to say lets just be friends?
Thursday, October 15, 2009
I'm The Luckiest Girl!!!
So I know that I haven't updated this blog in a while. But that doesn't mean I haven't been thinking about it. Kind of like a lot of things in life ... you've been meaning to do them for a while but just never get around to it. Personally, I believe that it's better to have thought about doing it then to completely ignore a thing, at least then you have acknowledged that it is something that needs to be done. And as I learned in my Leadership class today, sometimes acknowledgment can go a very long way. However, in this case acknowledging the fact that I needed to update this blog didn't get me very far, so here I am updating because one of my classes was cancelled. Sometimes it just takes the right set of circumstances to make things happen (that is a hint to some of my professors)! Anyway, now on to the meat of this little episode!
A couple of weeks ago, my boss and I were talking. Somehow the conversation turned to how I felt things were going really well for me and so on. Anyway, in her best other person voice she turns to me and says (as if I were saying this)
"I am the Luckiest girl at SUU!"
Anyway, it kind of got me thinking. I am the luckiest girl! In all seriousness, as crazy as things have been for me the last couple of weeks and in all of my frustration! I feel like there really is someone above looking out for me. That I can find joy in the small things around me and that I've come to the point in my life where I am not going to let the circumstances around me dictate my attitude or my ability to enjoy life. But I also feel very blessed and honored to witness some very hilarious things each day, that keep me entertained for example:
While sitting in the library computer lab studying for a test and having a girl ask me, after having sat there for 5 min, "do I have to do something to make this work" (in reference to her computer). I respond by saying,
"Oh you might have to turn it on." She looks at me and says "Well how am I supposed to do that?" Surpressing laughter I turn and push the one and only button on the front of the computer and say "Like that." All the while behind me two girls are fawning over this guy who can't figure out how to do some very basic math. At this point I stop and think to myself, by sitting here am I really enhancing my ability to learn or is this section of the lab a black hole where all intelligent thought is sucked out of you as you step into its force field. I then promptly stand up and move my studying to the second floor of the library, where the only thing I can be distracted by now is the view of the freshmen pouring across the street from the dorms through the window at my usual table. (Don't Worry I aced the test!)
A couple of weeks ago, my boss and I were talking. Somehow the conversation turned to how I felt things were going really well for me and so on. Anyway, in her best other person voice she turns to me and says (as if I were saying this)
"I am the Luckiest girl at SUU!"
Anyway, it kind of got me thinking. I am the luckiest girl! In all seriousness, as crazy as things have been for me the last couple of weeks and in all of my frustration! I feel like there really is someone above looking out for me. That I can find joy in the small things around me and that I've come to the point in my life where I am not going to let the circumstances around me dictate my attitude or my ability to enjoy life. But I also feel very blessed and honored to witness some very hilarious things each day, that keep me entertained for example:
While sitting in the library computer lab studying for a test and having a girl ask me, after having sat there for 5 min, "do I have to do something to make this work" (in reference to her computer). I respond by saying,
"Oh you might have to turn it on." She looks at me and says "Well how am I supposed to do that?" Surpressing laughter I turn and push the one and only button on the front of the computer and say "Like that." All the while behind me two girls are fawning over this guy who can't figure out how to do some very basic math. At this point I stop and think to myself, by sitting here am I really enhancing my ability to learn or is this section of the lab a black hole where all intelligent thought is sucked out of you as you step into its force field. I then promptly stand up and move my studying to the second floor of the library, where the only thing I can be distracted by now is the view of the freshmen pouring across the street from the dorms through the window at my usual table. (Don't Worry I aced the test!)
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