To all of my fans out there, don't worry, I've been keeping a nice little list of things to write about on my blog in the back of my cute little pink planner, that also happens to contain my life plan (so I don't plan on losing it anytime soon)! Anyway, I just haven't had the time to develop any of these ideas, but that is what I'm about to do, instead of my homework that is due tomorrow. I just feel like I need to let out a little of what has been troubling the girls that happen to live on the only One Way Street in our little town. Once again this has to do with relationships, so sorry, I just am surrounded by it ... and as hard as I try I can't get away! Now on with the real story. So in all our self-pitying and dramatic moments we as roommates have had time to reflect on this so called dating game and seriously someone needs to rewrite the rules, or write the rules to begin with. It is kind of like what we talked about in my Business Government and Ethics class when discussing morals and ethics. The following conversation ensued:
Prof: "Is it wrong to hit somebody?"
Class: Generally yes ... a few guys in the back answered If they deserve it no.
Prof: "Well then shouldn't all of those people playing football get arrested and charged with assault because all they do is go around hitting people."
Class: That is different they agreed to be hit, so those doing the hitting are not liable.
Prof: "So if you were playing football you couldn't just say to the person coming at you that if they hit you, you would sue them."
Class: Right
Prof: "Well what if they started hitting the spectators?"
Class: That's a different story because they didn't agree to play the game.
Conclusion: If you agree to play the game then you accept the rules and regulations that go along with it, however, if you are just a spectator you have some rights if you feel you have been wronged/injured.
Application: If you jump in the dating game, you agree to play by the rules. You put yourself out there and if you get hit, you just take one for the team. But what about those of us, who don't want to be in the game and somehow we get wrapped up in it and end up getting hurt or hurting someone else. You see where I'm going with this. There is no end to the PAIN!!!
Case in Point: Guys are always saying that girls have no idea what they want, thus making it hard for them to date us (girls). They say that we are confusing and can't send clear signals. While probably true in many instances, there is one particular situation I would like to focus on. Guys are the confusing ones!! Guys always say that they would rather have a girl tell them in the beginning if they are not interested rather than lead them on and like 10 weeks into the relationship the girl says "I'm just not that into you! But thanks for all of the free food and great entertainment." I get that, it's just plain rude to lead someone on and take advantage of them. However, Girls end up being the bad guys because if we tell them up front that we aren't interested we become uppity "Bitches" (sorry Mom). So it's a lose-lose for us girls. Either way we end up being the bad guys --- or girls. So someone gets hurt, even when they tried to stay out of the game!
2nd point: What happens when you are trying to be a friend ... I mean you think someone is a cool person, enjoy spending time with them, overall it's a win - win. You don't want to be in the game you are just trying to enhance your friend pool. The problem is when someone gets too emotionally involved and communication is lacking. Or signals are sent or signals are misread. It's a set up for disaster. Someone is getting hurt and a friendship is destroyed!
So what can we learn ... you are not safe as a spectator! and when it comes to any kind of relationship (friends, family, or romantic) communication is key, and remember if you wouldn't like someone treating you that way, probably shouldn't treat someone else like that!
****Please feel free to comment and help me understand the rules of the GAME!
Prof: "Is it wrong to hit somebody?"
Class: Generally yes ... a few guys in the back answered If they deserve it no.
Prof: "Well then shouldn't all of those people playing football get arrested and charged with assault because all they do is go around hitting people."
Class: That is different they agreed to be hit, so those doing the hitting are not liable.
Prof: "So if you were playing football you couldn't just say to the person coming at you that if they hit you, you would sue them."
Class: Right
Prof: "Well what if they started hitting the spectators?"
Class: That's a different story because they didn't agree to play the game.
Conclusion: If you agree to play the game then you accept the rules and regulations that go along with it, however, if you are just a spectator you have some rights if you feel you have been wronged/injured.
Application: If you jump in the dating game, you agree to play by the rules. You put yourself out there and if you get hit, you just take one for the team. But what about those of us, who don't want to be in the game and somehow we get wrapped up in it and end up getting hurt or hurting someone else. You see where I'm going with this. There is no end to the PAIN!!!
Case in Point: Guys are always saying that girls have no idea what they want, thus making it hard for them to date us (girls). They say that we are confusing and can't send clear signals. While probably true in many instances, there is one particular situation I would like to focus on. Guys are the confusing ones!! Guys always say that they would rather have a girl tell them in the beginning if they are not interested rather than lead them on and like 10 weeks into the relationship the girl says "I'm just not that into you! But thanks for all of the free food and great entertainment." I get that, it's just plain rude to lead someone on and take advantage of them. However, Girls end up being the bad guys because if we tell them up front that we aren't interested we become uppity "Bitches" (sorry Mom). So it's a lose-lose for us girls. Either way we end up being the bad guys --- or girls. So someone gets hurt, even when they tried to stay out of the game!
2nd point: What happens when you are trying to be a friend ... I mean you think someone is a cool person, enjoy spending time with them, overall it's a win - win. You don't want to be in the game you are just trying to enhance your friend pool. The problem is when someone gets too emotionally involved and communication is lacking. Or signals are sent or signals are misread. It's a set up for disaster. Someone is getting hurt and a friendship is destroyed!
So what can we learn ... you are not safe as a spectator! and when it comes to any kind of relationship (friends, family, or romantic) communication is key, and remember if you wouldn't like someone treating you that way, probably shouldn't treat someone else like that!
****Please feel free to comment and help me understand the rules of the GAME!
Meg If I understood the rules I am sure I would not have been referred to up there. Anyways, Loved it!
ReplyDeleteLuckily I've been out of "the game" for a long while, but it doesn't sound like it has changed much. No matter what guys try to tell you, if they liked you at some point, you can never just be friends--doesn't work, don't try, just cut him off and go elsewhere to enhance the friend pool.
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